Yes, we went bowling yesterday, but I’m somewhat reluctant to talk about it. To say that we did bad would be an understatement.
Last night we bowled against Jeff and Adele (not their real names), less than average bowlers. Beating them should have been a breeze, but it wasn’t.
My first game was bad, my second was a better but with room for improvement. In my third game I flirted with a 200 and during my fourth I crashed and burned.
How did Dieter do? Well, let’s just say he didn’t even get off the ground.
I was rather surprised, because in the three previous weeks we did rather well. In the first week we took the majority of the points; in the second week we got a beating, but managed to snag 2,5 points; in the third week the winnings were split between the two teams.
Last night we only managed to take 4 points. Not a total loss, but considering who we played against, we should have taken everything.
Which makes me wonder ... is our bowling performance influenced by the opposition? Do we bowl better when we are up against bowlers betters than us?
Far more distressing though is the lack of fun we had last night. There was no interaction, no talking and certainly no laughing. Can that make a difference?
I’ve wondered about this before ... when did bowling stop being fun? We had such good times in the past. When we first started bowling, making a strike was such an achievement. We would scream and shout and dance around like crazy. When a spare was made, we would be amazed like ... did I just do that!
Now a strike nothing and we don’t even blink when a spare is made. On the contrary, now we’re amazed when we don’t make a strike and blame our inability to anything and everything.
The ball was too greasy – the ball was too dry.
The lanes were too greasy – the lanes were too dry.
The pins were stubborn.
The pins were too well balanced, they wobbled but they didn't fall.
The walk was wrong.
The hand position was wrong.
The delivery was wrong.
The speed was wrong.
Why can’t we just accept that we failed and walk away?
That’s the difference between social bowlers and league bowlers. Social bowlers don’t care (much) and have a good time; league bowlers (especially those with a few years under their belt) expect too much of themselves.
Instead of learning to get better, maybe we should learn to enjoy ourselves again.
Next week better?